Women may think that they have men figured out. Yet, explore some internet forums, and you will be shocked about guys. In one popular online community, the women share their unexpected insights about males. Here is what they have discovered.
The Guy Isn’t Interested
You want to hook up with a guy but learn that he isn’t keen on dating. One female was shocked to find out that many guys have thrown in the towel when it comes to finding a partner. She says that the guys have “really good reasons” why they aren’t interested. So don’t assume the next guy you have your eye on is going to reciprocate.
Give Me Some Romance
Women love a guy who knows how to wine and dine her. However, some guys also enjoy their significant other taking the romantic lead. One user explains men “want romancing just as women do.” So, grab some candles, and flowers and then let your man feel the love.
Add Some Alcohol
Let’s start by saying that everything needs to be done in moderation. One effect of alcohol is that acts as a relaxation. When having a game night at her house, a member of the online community noticed, “My boyfriend got drunk, and between making sure everyone else was good and had enough to eat and drink, he was so much more affectionate with me than he is when sober.” Note that the guy is normally affectionate, the alcohol just increased the level. To what degree remains a secret.
The Media Has Demonized Men
Men and society have a tendency to put men in a bad light, as though they are revved-up machines that objectify women. Yet one user explains, “Men are often just as sensitive and romantic and emotionally vulnerable as women…we as a society aren’t ready to accept, address or accept it yet.” Yep, your man can break down in tears.
No Kids?
Some guys just aren’t dad material. The idea of raising other children is a big turn-off. One guy who claims to be a magnet for single mothers is bluntly honest. He says, “I have zero problems with single moms. I just don’t want to deal with kids. Mine or anyone else’s.”
Men Don’t Look For Help
When a woman has an emotional issue, she seeks out support. This could be from her friends or a formal support group. But men aren’t as willing to look for help when they are suffering. As one user points out, “Many men both lack and have no idea how to build a robust emotional support network.”
Show The Guy Some Affection
Men are stereotyped with the image of them being macho. With that, there is the assumption that your man may not need much affection. Yet, nothing can be further from the truth as one user observes, “Men just need affection, and everyone has just been trained to not realize it.”
Men And Women Are The Same
You may think that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Yet, one woman explains that men “are more like women than we or they are capable of admitting. They have just as many insecurities as we do, albeit a lot of different ones”. Perhaps we are all from Venus.
Not All Men Are Thinking About The “S” Word
Women tend to think that all men are interested in is how to get someone into the bed. But, again, we are stereotyping guys. Sure, it’s something that guys do contemplate, yet one user says, “I have a friend I would sleep with and I don’t bring it up because I wouldn’t want it to cause an issue. Being attracted to someone doesn’t cheapen your platonic feeling for them.” Some men just want to remain friends (without benefits).
Men Fall Under One Of Four Categories
Categorizing things makes life easier. We can compartmentalize the things and people around us. Tucking them away in the appropriate mental drawer. With men, one person explains, “You will come to see men as lonely, desperate, angry, and horny.” Men can’t seem to get a break.
There Are Good Guys
The good news, not all men are lonely, desperate, angry, or horny. There are males that have a good side. One user mentions, “I’ve found that guys … actually have a compassionate, honest, and soft side.” Men, chalk that up to a win.
Oh No. Here He Comes
When guys want to have a casual chat with a woman, the guy has some reservations. An astute individual explains, “I think many guys refrain from engaging in socializing with women because they don’t want to appear creepy.” Because society has cast the label of Creep around the neck of men, they can second guess whether to make a move or not.
You Don’t Have To Be Alone
Something that surprised one user was “Many women seem shocked and saddened by how lonely being a man is.” Yes, guys can be desperately lonely. When they talk to you, the motivation can be an innocent one: they just want a friend.
Honesty
In a relationship, both parties want one another to tell the truth. Here is what one member of the online community had to say: “We will be honest, even if it’s not a popular take.” The truth can hurt. Yet, when it’s delivered in love and compassion, it strengthens a relationship.
Time To Talk
Guys want to get things off their chest. As one user explains, “We just want our problems listened to and to crack a joke sometimes.” The joke lightens the mood. Can’t get too serious now.
Come Here, You
At times, there is only one thing the guy needs: “Most of you would love a good hug.” No words need to be said. A hug makes things so much better.
Do You Need Instructions?
When it comes to going to the toilet, men are always reminded that they are…men. One woman observes that guys “get really confused about the logistics of peeing sometimes.” Yes, there are times when a guy misses. That’s a part of life.
I Love Your…
We all appreciate being complimented. It makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Yet, it seems that men are more needy in this department than women. One commentator says, “I was surprised at how many men are just desperate for their partner (or a partner) to pay them a genuine compliment.”
You Have Greater Clarity About Men
There you have a bunch of surprising insights about guys. With that understanding, you can show some more appreciation towards your male counterpart.
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