The author has a dog, a corgi, who is their sidekick, and the author has been with their fiancé for 5 years. The fiancé likes the dog but is currently pregnant and experiencing migraines, which causes her to snap at everything.
The author wakes up in the morning and interacts with the dog, who goes crazy with excitement, by singing made-up songs and playing with the dog. This can be noisy, and the author has ADHD, which makes it hard for them to control the noise levels.
The fiancé has complained about the noise a few times, but the author sometimes forgets to tone it down and starts making noise again. The fiancé has been getting up earlier than usual to have peace and avoid the noise.
Still, the author wakes up when they feel their fiancé is no longer in bed. This causes the dog to become excited and start making noise again. The fiancé thinks the author is purposely annoying her, but the author is not doing it intentionally.
The author has tried to stay in bed to let the fiancé relax, but they get restless. The fiancé left the bed early this morning, and the author saw her tip-toeing out of the room. The dog saw the author was awake and became excited, causing the fiancé to come back in and ask for some peace.
Potentially not the best choice of words
The author told the fiancé to “get over herself” and that being pregnant does not mean the household has to change or the author’s dynamic with the dog has to change. The fiancé left and has been gone for 6 hours and won’t answer the author’s calls.
The situation described highlights a communication breakdown between the author and their fiancé. While well-intentioned, the author’s behavior with their dog may impact their fiancé’s well-being and cause stress.
The author should learn to be more considerate and understanding. One Reddiot commented, “YTA this mindset is how women get branded as “nags” when in reality their partners can’t just hold the smallest bit of consideration for others.
Your partner is literally sneaking out of bed in the early morning hours to just have a moment of peace and quiet to relax, and you can’t let her have it because if she isn’t actively complaining, you can’t respect her need to a few minutes of quiet!”
On the other hand, the fiancé’s pregnancy and migraines can exacerbate their emotions and cause them to overreact. Both parties need to have an open and understanding conversation about their needs and find a way to accommodate each other’s concerns.
Using language such as “get over herself” is not productive and could further harm the relationship. Some simple behavioral modification would benefit everyone here. One Reddiot commented, “For real. Grab the leash and head to the park for an hour or so; win-win for everyone. What the actual f***.”
It’s also concerning that the fiancé has been gone for 6 hours and not answering calls. It would be wise for the author to reach out and try to have a calm and understanding conversation.