When you’re romantically involved with a man, you need to make sure it’s a wholesome one. But how do you determine whether your man is toxic or not?
Thankfully, some women can share their heartbreaking experiences with toxic men. Learn from their personal experiences so you can safeguard yourself from grief and heartache.
Emotionally and Mentally Tired
“You always leave them feeling emotionally drained.”
Take note if you are with a guy who makes you feel emotionally tired.
They Play the Victim
“Someone is always hurting them. It’s never the same person.”
A toxic guy blames others for the way he feels. It’s everybody else’s fault except his.
They Can’t Say the “S” Word
“They cannot apologize.”
It’s very difficult for them to apologize for their own shortcomings.
Don’t Get Angry With Me
“They get upset when you’re upset at them. They act like that is worse than what they did in the first place.”
It’s like you are fueling the flame of their anger.
It’s True…Not
“They lie about everything. Most of the time, it’s about others or things they have done.”
The truth seems to be not on their radar.
Cheer Me Up
“You always have to raise their spirits, but they cannot return the favor.”
Positivity flows only one way.
Let Me Help You Raise Some Cash
“An old friend of mine, like 30 years, knows my parents are somewhat hoarders. So he would, for a period, shoot ME an e-mail like, ‘Let me help your parents sell stuff.’ Then before I could even reply and explain it was their decision, not mine, he’d show up, go through their stuff seeking out the most valuable item, then propose to sell it for 5% of the value, and he gets 50% of the take – so he gets 2.5% of the value, and we lose 97.5% of the value. And not only me. Some other mutual friends have reported the same behavior. He wasn’t even trying to help the situation. He used it as an excuse to cherry-pick the valuables and profit from them. He never did sell anything since everybody put their foot down on him, and he at least has the ethics to respect that.”
Toxic guys will only use you to meet their own financial ends.
I Know What That’s Like
“If you need to talk about something upsetting to you and the person makes it all about himself, not even trying to look like he cares.”
How quickly the conversation becomes about the toxic male.
Pay Attention to Your Intuition
“If the idea of being around a person gives you anxiety and you don’t look forward to seeing them, that’s your sixth sense or gut telling you they’re toxic.”
Listen to what your intuition is saying.
Be Careful What You Tell Him
“Toxic people make mountains out of molehills. They exaggerate. Everything is a catastrophe with them.”
If your man goes ballistic over the smallest thing, it could be a sign that he’s toxic.
This Is What I Want
“The first sign is their motive. When they seem to want something more than they value their relationship with you, tell them no and see how they react. Good friends respect boundaries. Toxic people push until they get what they want.”
A good test before you decide to take the relationship to the next level.
Watch What I Can Do
“Intimidation which could be threats of anything from blackmail to violence.”
A guy that intimidates you is a guy to keep away from.
You Owe Me
“Accusations to put the victim on the defense and make them feel like they have to work off a debt to earn the manipulator’s trust. (typically FALSE accusations.) If someone legitimately wrongs you, you don’t owe them automatic trust because of the time you both have in the relationship.”
If the guy starts to make you feel like you owe him for some imagined wrong, take it as a sign of toxicity.
You’re Not So Sure, Are You?
“They gaslight and always passive-aggressively delight in making you feel smaller and act oblivious when called out.”
You are made to doubt and question things that happened in the past. When you are sure about an experience, the toxic guy acts like he can’t remember.
I Can’t Accept That
“‘Refusing to take no for an answer.’ That’s a huge red flag that I wish I had acknowledged a year ago.”
Toxic guys only want you to say “Yes” to their requests.
I’m Not Interested in What You Think
“Won’t listen to your opinions.”
The only opinions that matter to a toxic man are his own.
Wait and See What I Can Accomplish
“The most reliable sign I have come across for toxic people are people who think they are way more intelligent or way more capable of success than they actually are. Humility is something most toxic people just aren’t capable of and is a good thing to watch for!”
Toxic guys have an illusion of how great they can be.
I’m Going to Ignore That
“They step right over a boundary you’ve just laid down, no matter how simple.”
Don’t bother with setting boundaries, as the toxic guy won’t pay any attention to them.
Take Your Time and Check Your Own Emotions
When it comes to entering a relationship with a guy, look for the above signs. Don’t think only one of these means a guy is toxic. Yet, if a guy appears to have three or more, then let the warning bells ring.
Also, if you are attracted to these types of guys, ask yourself why. It could be that you have an underlying psychological issue that needs addressing. Seek out professional help.
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