Feelings of insecurity plague the majority of us. According to the UN, 6 out of 7 people feel insecure. That’s a whopping 85% of the population. How can you tell if you or someone around you suffers from this kind of vulnerability? Here are 21 signs that you suffer from insecurity.
Being Indecisive
Because of your self-doubt and fear of being wrong, you can find it difficult to make a decision. The thoughts running through your head are loud and clear: “If I make the incorrect choice, I’ll look stupid.”
Needing Approval
You find it hard to accept yourself. Self-rejection is powerful. Social rejection is even stronger. We all long for acceptance. When our self-esteem is low, we need other people to acknowledge us as validation of our self-worth.
It’s Not Good Enough
Doubting our abilities, we feel like the work we do isn’t up to par. That can cause you to focus on the perceived mistakes. Other people think that what you have done is great, but you aren’t so sure, so you redo the task.
I Have Control
Being in control is a way in which one can feel secure. There is no uncertainty about what’s happening around you or about the outcome of your actions. Letting others act independently scares people who have insecurity.
Can’t Fail
For some, failure is a way in which they learn what works and what doesn’t. For others, it shines a spotlight on their flaws. Something that those who lack confidence find hard to deal with, so these people feel it’s better not to try.
I Deserved That
When people with insecurity are verbally or physically attacked, they don’t fight back. This can be another indicator of low self-worth and the false belief they are getting what they deserve.
Avoid Debate
We all have opinions. It can be hard for insecure people to share theirs or get involved in a debate. For them, they feel like what they have to share isn’t important. Also, there is a fear that they will be ridiculed and made to feel small.
Look At Them…
Social comparison can be a blessing and a curse. If you look at those who have a lifestyle or personality that you envy, your insecurities bubble up. On the other side of the coin, when you look at those who are less fortunate than you, then you don’t feel so bad.
Being Humble
Insecure people can find it hard to accept that they have done something amazing. Usually, they will say that was “just luck” or write the experience off as less awesome than it was.
I’m Sorry
An indicator of insecurity is a constant feeling that you have to apologize for everything. Even if it wasn’t your fault, you still say “sorry” because you feel as though you contributed to the situation.
Yes, It’s My Fault
You want to smooth the waters when an argument is brewing. So you opt to take the blame even though you’re innocent.
Ugh, They’re So Happy
Ask yourself, “When other people are happy or something good happens to them, do I feel jealous?” If the answer to that is “Yes,” it can be a sign of insecurity on your part. Why do you feel jealous of the success of others?
Don’t Take My Picture
Do you hate having your photo taken? Is it because you don’t like to look at yourself? If so, then you might be insecure.
Should I Laugh At That?
When someone says something that is slightly funny, do you feel like you have to laugh even though you don’t want to? That nervous laughter shows that you aren’t comfortable but want to fit in with the crowd. Social rejection can be crippling for people with low self-esteem.
Look At Me
When we look at another person in the eye, it’s a sign that we’re confident. Insecure people find it hard to make eye contact and will look everywhere except directly at you.
I’ll Be In The Corner… Alone
An evolutionary trait of survival is to be part of a group. However, shyness can have someone on the outside in social settings. Fear of getting hurt or finding it hard to trust others may be reasons why people keep to themselves in social gatherings.
Hang On, I Need To Check Instagram
Seeking the approval of an online audience can be one sign of insecurity. Longing for “Likes” on your posts by people you haven’t met indicates that you may have self-worth issues.
Here’s What I Would Do…
This goes hand-in-hand with self-doubt. You want to feel like you have made the right choices in your life. To do so, you dish out unrequested advice to those around you.
No, You’re Wrong
Here, you take the stance that you are right and everybody else is wrong. The psychological and emotional defensive walls are up, and you aren’t in a hurry to let them down.
I Love… Me!
To protect your vulnerability, you go to the opposite extreme: acting arrogant.
Shields Up
To hide your insecurity, you use items around you as a defensive wall. These allow us to cover up the “windows” of our bodies (eyes, palms, chest, mouth, and throat). Do you clutch your bag close to your chest? Hide your eyes behind sunglasses? Chances are you may be protecting your windows.
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