A bride-to-be’s desire for the most ‘aesthetically pleasing’ wedding photos possible has led to her fiance potentially calling the whole marriage off. We think this may be a good thing!
Describing the predicament to the Reddit forum Am I The A**hole (AITA), the OP bride explains that her fiance has recently had braces fitted to correct his crooked teeth. Something she was very supportive of. But, because of this, she now wants to postpone her wedding.
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Bracing For a Breakup?
” Did you ever see a groom wearing braces at his wedding?” She asks rhetorically in her post. Stating that she wants the wedding photos to be as “aesthetically pleasing” as possible. She supported her fiance in “finally” getting the corrective treatment done, as he has had crooked teeth since childhood. Still, she would have preferred he got invisible braces for the wedding.
It is essential to note why the fiance delayed getting braces for so long. The fear of being bullied at school caused him to refuse treatment. Only as an adult in a seemingly supportive relationship did he accept them. In response to this, her fiance has become immensely upset. He did not get invisible braces because they were more expensive, and he wanted to save money for the wedding and honeymoon, which he regarded as more important.
Reddit Responds
Accusing OP of being shallow and ashamed of him, the fiance proclaimed that if OP was going to postpone the wedding because of this, they may as well not get married at all.
OP finishes the post by saying she thinks this is unfair of him but concedes that she should not have pushed the issue.
If OP was expecting support from the AITA community, she certainly has not received it. Instead, her post is followed with comment after comment of sympathy for her fiance for having his childhood fears of being bullied realized—but worse.
“Kids are stupid, mean, and don’t have a reason to support you. But as an adult, your fiance should not be treating you worse!” says one person.
A Shallow Attitude
Others comment on how OP’s shallow attitude reflects a societal obsession with a perfect snapshot over a solid relationship.
“The number of people on this sub who prioritize weddings and wedding photos over actual people and relationships is kind of insane,” says one commenter.
“A wedding is about celebrating the beginning of your married life with the partner that you love. It’s not about the ****ing photo for your Instagram,” says another.
OP says of her encouragement to get braces that she supported him, not for seeking medical attention, but for “finally fixing his bad teeth,” speaking volumes of prioritizing aesthetics. The fact that he could wait so long without any mentioned health defects too suggests these braces are far more for appearance purposes than medical intervention.
This is speculation, but since the fiance is apparently comfortable and confident enough to wear braces at his wedding after being so afraid of being bullied for them as a child. There is no reason he’d be embarrassed about crooked teeth either—perhaps getting the braces at all was only at the urging of OP? What do you think?
An insightful commenter summarizes this mindset: “she wants a wedding, not a marriage.” Therefore, any wedding photos of a truly happy couple would be cherished even if the whole party was dressed in pajamas and drenched in mud. Never mind if the groom had a little something on his teeth.
Many in the Reddit post express their opinion that the fiance should walk on and find someone who truly supports him, and we can’t help but agree.
HIS STONE COLD GREED. WIFE TRAGICALLY LOSES HER PARENTS BUT HER HUSBAND DEMANDS INHERITANCE
Source: Reddit
