After deciding on a child-free wedding, a couple went out to tell their guests, including close family members, the groom’s brother, and his wife.
The original poster (OP) on Am I The A**hole (AITA) told of his brother and his wife’s multiple failed pregnancies that eventually resulted in a ‘miracle baby’ or ‘rainbow baby’ that is now his 3-year-old nephew.
We all know how precious rainbow babies are. It is not a surprise to hear that the OP’s brother and sister-in-law were unhappy that their child could not attend and tried to persuade him otherwise.
The brother, Chris, professed that the rainbow baby would act as a blessing at his wedding and insisted he was invited. His wife even sent pictures of the baby to his wife to gain empathy.
One Reddit user agreed by saying, “I am dying of laughter that after getting the no, the parents started sending baby pictures like that would turn the tide. These people have genuinely LOST THE PLOT.” Another cheekily replied, “he will bring blessings by being there. BLESSINGS! What did they name this kid? Jesus?”
Many other AITA fans were quick to agree with the OP, saying that he and his wife should be able to have the wedding they want, and if that means it was being child-free, then so be it.
The OP may have gone a little far in making flashcards. This was to show to his brother and sister-in-law when they came to his house as they would not let up asking for their exceptional child to attend the wedding.
Yes, you heard that right. The OP made flashcards that read:
The wedding (with a sticker of bride and groom).
Is Child (with a sticker of a baby).
FREE (with a sticker of a 🚫 sign).
PERIOD (with a huge, black dot sticker).
The flashcards had people laughing out loud. One reader said, “NTA, that is goddamn hilarious. They kept pushing the boundary, and you held it firm in probably the funniest way possible”. Another said
To be fair to the OP. On reflection, he posted an update saying, “I might be the a**hole for the stunt I pulled and for using flash cards to explain my reasons to them, implying that they were stupid or slow.”
This has made things worse between us.” We can see that he has been affected by the disagreement after telling readers that his family was all “stunned” by his flashcard actions and now feel that they are being disrespected.
Despite some empathy for the parents of the rainbow baby. The OP was officially declared NTA. And was left worrying about the child’s future. Saying, “He’s going to grow up thinking he’s better than everyone else and is going to have a brutal adulthood once he realizes his friends and coworkers don’t give a flying f*** that his parents had trouble getting pregnant.”
This comment appears a little harsh, as we know these parents must feel so lucky and relieved to have a successful pregnancy. Still, while they want to show him off to the world at all times, they do need to understand the rules of others.
Many believe that the OP and his wife are correct in their actions, be it a little harsh in the delivery at times! One person summed it up by saying, “Have your wedding. It’s their problem.”