It is common for many couples to hold a child-free wedding so that their day is relaxed and as carefree as possible. Usually, when this happens, there is a debate about what children may be allowed and how long they are permitted to attend the big day.
For example, some people may want a young bridesmaid to participate in the ceremony and wedding breakfast. Still, then she will go home for the remainder of the event.
The debate came alive this week when one mom, currently five months pregnant, reached out on Am I The A**h*** (AITA). She asked if she was out of order for saying she would not attend her sister’s wedding as her (will be) 5-month-old baby cannot participate with her.
The original poster (OP) said she would not feel comfortable leaving such a young baby for too long with a sitter. Which is something many moms can relate to. Understandably, the OP’s sister was upset that she would not attend. She felt she was “trying to act holier-than-thou and punishing her for having a child-free wedding.”
She even wanted the OP to give a speech at the wedding and offered to give her contacts for good sitters that her friends recommend. In response to the post, many readers agreed with the OP that the sister’s rules seemed very harsh, especially regarding strangers looking after a newborn.
One person said, “Her child-free wedding has taken away the people you trust most with your kid. I wouldn’t have allowed a stranger to look after my daughter when she was five months old.”
Another commented, “Childfree weddings are great, but if you’re unwilling to work around this with family, then you’re prioritizing not interacting with children over celebrating with your family. People need to accept the consequences of their choices.”
Most agreed that an exception should be made for a young baby of a very close family member. However, many questioned just how much noise a 5-month-old could create.
In the sister’s defense, some commentators understood her desire for a child-free wedding, stating, “Not that your sister is an a****le to have a child-free wedding! That’s perfectly fine.” However, they said she could not get angry with others who could not work around her rules.
There may be a lot of heated debate within the family from now until the wedding date. We hope they compromise, perhaps along this person’s suggestion. ” If your sister wants you there that bad, she will find a solution to make you both happy. Maybe pay a sitter to come and stay with the baby in the back so they can exit fast if she cries? “.
What do you think about this? Who was in the right here?