A 23-year-old man was apparently causing problems by declining to babysit his three “rowdy” nephews while on holiday.
Family Entitlement
The man explained that his family relentlessly expected him to be a babysitter for his sister’s triplets.
“I was repeatedly stuck playing the part of helper and babysitter on family outings. I had to move out of my parents’ house because I kept being forced to help watch my three nephews.”
An Awful Vacation
The family heads for an annual seaside vacation – and last year’s was a disaster.
“I rode along with my parents, and they paid for my hotel room. Only, I had to share that room with the kids because my sister and her husband wanted a room for themselves. I was promised time to do my own things on vacation. But instead, I ended up having to help with these kids.”
He Didn’t Get To Enjoy His Vacation
It was clear he was there to be free childcare.
“I complained to everyone about it and was reminded I was there for free. And then we pretty much just did only one thing I wanted to do. Which was to tour an art gallery. I like doing this whenever I’m at the coast. But the kids find it boring.”
He Came Up With A Plan
For this year’s getaway, he’s paying for himself so that no one can hold that over him when they try to pressure him into baby duties.
“This year, my parents have a beach trip planned for June. And they assumed I’d be riding along the same way as last year. But I refused. I said I’d be driving myself and paying for my own hotel stay to have my own room.”
Everyone Was Shocked
They couldn’t understand why he’d pass on a free vacation.
“I’ve got a good job and a decent running car. I can more than afford it. That’s when the ‘buts’ started. I stated the previously listed things as to why I’ll be driving myself and paying for myself. I want to be able to enjoy this vacation as an adult and not be treated like a child like last year.”
His Sister Is Angry
She “blew up” at him for doing this. “My parents told my sister, and she called to blow up at me that I’ll be ruining the vacation if I’m off doing my own thing while she has to wrangle her three boys. I ended up yelling at her that last year all she did was rope me into her mess. I didn’t really get to do much of anything I wanted to do. And I was treated like the bad guy for wanting to just go to an art gallery. I’m a grown man. I deserve my own vacation too.”
Peace-keeping
His sister is refusing to talk to him, and his parents insist he “go along with it to keep the peace.”
“I’m still refusing. But the pressure is getting to me. AITA for not giving in? I know they’ll have a pretty hard time when they won’t have another person there to help.”
He Shared His Predicament
The man logged on to a popular online community to ask if he was wrong for refusing to budge.
Here’s what the community had to say.
A Whole Mess
Let’s say no one-sided with the sister. One user said: “She’s admitting she’s ruining your vacation so as not to ruin her own! They’re her kids and her responsibility. NTA. In fact, you’re nicer than I would be; I’d just say ‘no thanks; I’ve got other plans’ and avoid the family vacation altogether.”
Not His Responsibility
Everyone agreed that the kids were the parents’ responsibility – not the uncle’s. One comment said:
“As a mom (or insert primary caregiver here), family vacations are a lot of work for me. However, I’ve never pawned my kids off on anyone for a week – I just take a weekend to myself to recoup after if I can.”
Bad Sister
One user had this to say to the sister:
“The unmitigated gall of his sister! If you’re reading this, sister of OP. This online community has shined a light on your actions, and congrats, you are wrong. Pony up for a sitter, apologize to your brother, and be a better person.”
He Wouldn’t Back Down
OP refused to relent to the pressure from his sister and the parents, and the online community applauded him for it and crowned his sister as the wrong one in this situation.
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