OP is a woman from Ohio who disclosed online her need for a divorce lawyer because her husband cheated on her, gave her an STI, and emptied their bank accounts. They have four children together, and she hasn’t been employed since their oldest was born. She is now worried about how she will feed her children, as her husband has given her a week to leave “his house.” She is also contemplating selling her wedding and engagement rings to afford things.
The Community Reacted
After receiving an outpouring of support from online users offering food, gift certificates, and well wishes, OP was able to take action.
She Took Action
She spoke with her in-laws and got enough cash to pay for a babysitter while she sorted things out. She then opened a new checking account and credit card in her name and met with two divorce attorneys. She discovered that her husband had accumulated over $40,000 in credit card debt and was funneling money out of their shared accounts.
Lawyer’s Advice
On the advice of her lawyer, OP took half of the checking account money and put it in her new bank account, keeping records of everything. She plans to ask for alimony and child support until her youngest child is 18 and for her husband to pay for both their divorce attorneys. She also plans to sell their house and buy a smaller, more affordable one.
Heartbroken and Diseased
Despite feeling heartbroken and diseased, OP realized that her unhappy marriage had been lifted off her shoulders. She didn’t know how unhappy she was until her husband was gone, and she hoped to concentrate on returning to work once all her children were in school.
What a Good Family
It is fair to say that most people in the comments noted that the husband had not acted well or rationally. One commenter described:
“So glad the husband is getting screwed the dirty sod, what good in-laws op has and all her family rallying around her.”
No Support for the Husband
This is a significant point that harms any chance of additional facts about the situation that make the husband’s position understandable. Even his parents appreciate that this is an unacceptable situation, to the point that they are trying to help the OP out.
He’s in the Minority
Some have type-cast this style of behavior, suggesting there is a subsection of men who are willing to do this to their helpless families.
Similar Stories
There are several readers agree that there are several familiar stories that mirror this behavior.
“Men like this basically want a do-over. They leave their wives and children and take ‘their’ money, and their ideal is that their families spontaneously disappear so they can continue on with their life with no baggage or reminders.
They’re psychopaths.”
Readers Are Disgusted
It may not be the soundest psychological advice, but it shows the level of disdain the commenters hold. Clearly, they are aware of all too familiar stories of husbands abandoning their families. Sadly, many people in the comment sections are all too familiar with this style of circumstances.
Despicable Actions
The problem is that OP’s husband’s actions are so despicable that there is no real way for him to return to the family. He was willing to not only abandon them but also to take all of their money that would have been used for them to live.
“That is so cruel. Even if he did backtrack, that is horrifying that he could do something like that. I also started tearing up a bit at the father-in-law thing because it’s what my dad would do too”
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Actions speak a lot louder than words. What he has done cannot be put down to a moment of madness. Commenters have suggested that even if he did regret his actions, he would have to commit to them now because his parents and family would no longer accept him for what he did.
It Will Backfire in Time
Many have said this will likely backfire on him in a few years, where he will probably come begging to be back with OP. They say that she will never have anything to do with him again if she has any sense.
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