A dinner party was held to celebrate a birth. While outside having drinks, the host talked about being embarrassed about sh***ing herself during the delivery. The speaker pointed out that it’s a common occurrence during birth and used their girlfriend as an example of having also done so.
The girlfriend took issue with the information being shared. They had a tense exchange, leading to the speaker leaving early and things being cold between them. The speaker is unsure if they are the “a**hole” for bringing up the topic.
It is entirely normal for women to poop themselves during labor, and the tale the man shares at the dinner table is typical. The pressure and pushing during labor can cause the rectum to evacuate, which is considered a common and natural occurrence during childbirth.
Therefore, it is not considered embarrassing or uncommon; healthcare providers expect and are prepared for it. Despite this, not everyone wants this graphic image of their bodily functions in their friend’s heads. And ultimately, it’s not really his story to share.
One Redditor comments, “I think you thought you were both being accurate and helping out Lana. The thing is, Lana chose to tell the story herself. You told a story about your girlfriend that she was unaware of and that you knew would embarrass her.
Being accurate was worth humiliating your girlfriend in public. I don’t know how you could ever really make amends for intentionally embarrassing your girlfriend like this.”
On the other hand, the girlfriend was making fun of the woman sharing the story about pooping herself, which shows her cruelty. “Considering the gf was actively mocking someone who also did that, she absolutely deserved to be embarrassed.” So, perhaps she deserved it after all.
And another Redditor commented, “Your GF is an a***hole for making fun of another woman’s birth experience. You are not as much of an a**hole for outing your GF about a part of her birth experience she didn’t remember. The other women there are a**hole for talking smack about something they have no idea about.”
Although the girlfriend perhaps deserved it, it doesn’t mean the man should have done it. They are a couple and should be on each other’s team and not out to get one another.
“You shouldn’t have thrown your wife under the bus in front of people- she obviously was embarrassed and clueless. But if I were you, I would’ve said everything except that part about her doing it since she was obviously so appalled. However, once we’re in the car on the way home, I’d be telling her she should know she did this too so she can reflect a bit on how she made a woman feel about it.”
This is true; the girlfriend needed to be humbled, show more care for others and not be so cruel. However, it could have been done privately and not in front of all her friends. So, in the end, they are both a**hole and perfect for each other.
Source: Reddit