A young woman asked an online community for making a family meal awkward when everyone was more interested in her sister.
Their Graduations Coincide
The young woman is about to graduate from high school, and her sister is about to graduate from college. “I have always felt my sister is better than me at basically everything. I got by with B; she was a straight-A student, and so on. No one ever says it, but I know they prefer her to me.”
Sibling Rivalry
The woman feels she’s overshadowed by her big sister. “My aunt is not an easy person to impress at all; she was a lot of the firsts in the family. We were at dinner, and my aunt started to ask about my sister’s job when she got out of college. The whole rest of dinner was talking about my sister, what she was gonna do, and so on. It might as well have been a celebration for her.”
She Got Upset At The Meal
And made the evening uncomfortable. “My uncle asked me if I am going to college, and I snapped at him, saying why it doesn’t matter; this dinner is about my sister, not me. The table got quiet, and my mother told me to apologize. I refused.”
They Called Her Out
But the young woman is standing by her behavior. “We got home, and I got in an argument with my family, who think I was being a jerk. Edit: my sister has her own party this week; that’s why I thought my graduation party would be about me.”
She Asked What Other People Thought
She asked an online community whether she was wrong. One user said: “Your uncle was trying to make sure your accomplishments were being recognized too, and you snapped at him. You feel insecure. That’s no one else’s problem but yours.”
Bad Manners
Users called her out on her behavior. “I can understand why you felt like you were being swept under the rug. But it sounds like your uncle was trying to adjust the spotlight back to you. He did not deserve to be snapped at.”
Other Users Took A More Sympathetic Approach
One user said this: “I do believe the uncle was endeavoring to bring the conversation back to her, but she’s not wrong for lashing out. It’s hurtful to be ignored on YOUR day and once again be in your sibling’s shadow. Do apologize to your uncle, though. He was trying to help you out. But I’m not going to judge you for saying what you said because you were correct; this did turn into being all about your sister. Maybe talk to HER, and together, you guys could talk to your parents about what happened and how you feel invisible.”
Insecurity Rearing Its Ugly Head
A user spoke up about her unloading her jealousy onto her uncle: “If you’re in a hurtful situation and someone is trying to help you, you’re still wrong if you take your frustration out on them. It’s entirely possible to be both legitimately hurt and also a jerk.”
Several Apologies Are Warranted
Another user said that she should apologize – but so should a few other people at that table. “I agree your uncle deserves an apology because he did try to stir the conversation back to you. However, your mom, sister, aunt, and whoever else was involved deserved your wrath. So yes, you’re wrong for speaking to your uncle like that, but as for the rest of them, no apology is needed.”
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