OP, a 21-year-old female, wonders if she’s in the wrong after attending her brother’s wedding, where she brought her food due to her severe food allergies. The wedding was entirely vegan, and the bride, who is also vegan, disapproved of OP’s decision to bring eggs into her food. The bride accused OP of ruining her meal and appetite and called her selfish and disrespectful for not being able to go without animal secretions at a vegan wedding.
OP had talked to her brother beforehand about her allergies and decided to bring her own food since the catering company was not a professional one, and there was a high chance of cross-contamination. OP’s food had only two eggs in a salad box, and she didn’t see any harm in bringing it since she had done this at other events in the past without issue.
Now, OP is wondering if she’s in the wrong after the bride and her brother called her out for her decision. She doesn’t see it as a big deal, but she wants to know if she was disrespectful or not.
Should you ever bring your own food to a wedding?
It’s understandable that the bride and groom wanted to have a vegan wedding, but it’s also important to consider guests’ dietary restrictions and allergies. OP did the right thing by bringing her own food to ensure her safety. It’s not fair for the bride to be upset with OP for something she couldn’t control, especially since the catering wasn’t able to accommodate her allergies.
One Redditor comments: “NTA. While I understand having dietary restrictions and it being her day…You have unavoidable dietary restrictions, in that you are severely allergic to some foods, some of which were listed in the ingredients. You talked it out and got permission to bring your own food. You did your due diligence. From there, it is the responsibility of your brother to mention to his new wife what is going on.”
The brother should have gotten more involved to appease both his sibling and his bride, as he deeply understands the perspective of both parties and could communicate the issue better.m
Should you bring non-vegan food to a vegan wedding?
As for the eggs, it’s a matter of opinion whether they’re considered non-vegan or not. Some vegans may not consume eggs because they’re a product of an animal, while others may still consume them if they come from ethically treated chickens. Regardless, it’s not the bride’s place to judge what OP chooses to eat, especially since she had no other options.
One Redditor comments: “Especially since some of OP’s allergies are common ingredients in vegan food. Morality shouldn’t be at the expense of OP’s health and life.”
It’s a valid point- the OP shouldn’t have to choose between health and making the bride happy. It’s an allergy, and it’s not a choice. More allowances should have been made to ensure she was safe and happy.
Also, it seems like there is too much of a focus on the ‘vegan’ part of the wedding and not enough of a focus on love and commitment. If something as simple as an egg can spoil the bride’s day, then there’s not much anyone can do about that.
One Redditor comments, “Sorry, the focus of her wedding was veganism? Not that she was making a commitment to the person she loves? She’s an a** for that comment alone.”
Overall, the bride’s reaction seems unwarranted and rude. It’s important to prioritize guests’ safety and well-being over personal preferences, even if it’s a vegan wedding. OP did what she needed to do to take care of herself and shouldn’t feel guilty about it.
Is the OP the as***** at all?
Ultimately, there’s room to argue that the OP could have brought her own food and made sure it was still vegan. So yes, she still is a bit of an a******.
One Redditor comments: “You shouldn’t have brought eggs to a vegan wedding. I’m sure you could have found something vegan you were comfortable with eating.” And “I agree, I think the eggs were in poor taste and they could’ve just brought the salad without the eggs.”
Although it’s not an ideal scenario, bringing your own food to a wedding, she could have appeased the bride while still looking after her own health.
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