A wedding day is one of the most critical days in a person’s life and arguably only second to the birth of your children, but not according to one Reddit user who took to the forum this week to ask the question, “Am I the a**hole for telling my brother that he didn’t need to share that his wife was in labor on my wedding day?” after life threw him a curveball.
OP and their partner had undoubtedly been planning their big day for months, all they wanted was for their day to go as smoothly as possible, but as it turned out, the universe had different plans. OP’s brother attended, but his wife didn’t; she was very close to her due date and wanted to play it safe. Everything was going well until OP’s brother received a call from his mother-in-law to say that his wife had gone into labor. Instead of making an excuse and leaving, OP’s brother told a couple of guests what was happening, causing word to spread and attention to be drawn from the bride and groom. This prompted OP to reach out later in the day to express his feelings about the situation.
“I contacted him later and expressed my grief and frustration with his actions. I told him how the news of his wife being in labor disrupted the wedding and caused my wife to feel like her day was ruined. He lashed out, asking how any of that was his fault. I explained how he should’ve just left or made up some excuse to leave, but he said he didn’t mean any harm and that he was in a hurry and worried at the time.”
OP’s brother was taken aback by this – how could he control when and how his wife went into labor? It’s simple; he couldn’t!
Wedding Woes: Baby Steals the Show, and Redditors Deliver Hilarious Commentary
Redditors stormed the comments and struggled to take this situation as seriously as OP and his wife.
“The baby is obviously at fault here. Selfishly couldn’t even wait until after the wedding to be born. What an a**hole)”
While others were left wondering how OP could be so thoughtless when his brother had just welcomed a new baby into the world.
“I love that OP called his brother to express his grievances. Like, if my sister-in-law gave birth two days ago, I’d be asking my brother how my sister-in-law is and asking what the new nibling’s name is. Last time I sent a grocery delivery. OP is so self-centered.”
“It starts with “someone proposed at my wedding, and I got mad,” and everyone says NTA (not the a**hole) because it’s your special day, and they’re stealing the spotlight. Fair enough.
Sadly, it’s now snowballed and evolved to anyone doing anything outside of the bride and groom’s express wishes makes them an a**hole. Even having a baby, apparently.”
While others shared similar stories and the impacts, this could have on someone’s big day.
“I was at a friend’s wedding ten years ago, and the best man/brother of the groom’s wife was two weeks past the due date. Went to the wedding, and her waters broke just after leaving the church. The entire day was taken over with updates on how many centimeters she was dilated. Bestman was coming and going between reception and the hospital. By the night’s end, the baby had arrived, and both mother and baby were well.
In this situation, I understood the bride’s disappointment since SIL shouldn’t have attended, but what was the hardest thing to take was, as guests were leaving, they were hugging and congratulating the best man and literally passing the bride by without any good wishes.
I understand why people are calling you the a**hole but having seen something similar I’m voting Not the a**hole.”
Understandably this Reddit post has sparked a lively discussion about wedding etiquette and what constitutes appropriate behavior on someone’s big day. While arguments have been for and against OP’s brother’s actions, it’s important to remember things don’t always go to plan/
What do you think about this situation? Do you have any similar stories to share?
Source: Reddit