In this tale, the OP’s (a 23-year-old woman) older half-sister (32 years old) raised her after their mother passed away due to an overdose when she was 10. OP’s sister’s father was still in her life but declined to support OP, so her sister became her guardian, who sacrificed a lot for her, including her relationship with her father, education, and life during her 20s.
Will You Walk Me Down the Aisle?
A few months ago, OP got engaged and asked her sister to not only be her maid of honor but also to walk her down the aisle.
It’s a Man’s Job
Her sister was thrilled, but her fiancé objected, stating that it wasn’t appropriate for her sister to walk her down the aisle since it’s usually done by a man.
She Wants to Honor the Commitment
OP explained that her sister had fulfilled so many roles for her throughout her life, including being a big sister, mother, father, and friend, and it felt right to honor all of those roles on her wedding day.
Family Argument
However, this turned into an argument that has spread to her in-laws, with her mother-in-law suggesting that OP is putting her sister before her fiancé on his wedding day.
She’s Holding Out
At this point, the sister has even offered just to be the maid of honor to avoid causing stress on OP’s special day, but OP is still holding out and doesn’t want to concede on this point.
Am I in the Wrong?
OP is questioning whether she’s wrong in this situation.
Is He the Right Man?
Many of the commenters have suggested that OP should seriously consider if she is making the right choice. Her new family is quite controlling over a very small detail of the special day. Therefore, it is worth being aware that this attitude will continue into the future.
Don’t Marry Him!
“Tell your MIL that your FIL can walk your fiancé down the aisle if he wants to give someone away. Or better yet, strongly consider not marrying into this family because they’re unpleasant.”
Not a Good Impression
This commenter makes a mockery of their strange requests. It is clear that the readers are in line with what the OP is saying. Clearly, her soon-to-be husband’s family is really not giving a good impression.
She’ll Always Be Your Sister
With divorce rates as they are these days, it is significant to note that the husband might be temporary, but her sister will always be her sister.
The Community Responds
As one commenter notes:
“Don’t marry him. This will be the rest of your life. Your sister will never be respected because she isn’t a man.”
Red Flags
Clearly, people agree that this man is showing some serious red flags before a lifelong commitment to each other. It is critical that the OP thinks long and hard before she is stuck with a person who does not respect her family.
Family Is Key
OP obviously had a very difficult life. Her sister is her parental figure and should be cherished and appreciated for her sacrifices. She is obviously appreciated and admired for what she has done to help raise OP on her own.
What a Wonderful Idea
“What a wonderful way to honor your sister and the roles she has played in your life.”
Most Support Her
When it comes to family and the tradition of weddings, OP should have every right to enjoy her wedding day as she sees fit so that she can celebrate it alongside her sister exactly as she would like to. Commenters are heavily supportive of OP’s decision to have her sister be a significant part of the ceremony.
They’re a Traditional Family
Of course, some commenters have noted that she is marrying a traditional family, which they are free to be. This means that they would find it very unusual, considering that the bride’s father would always walk her down the aisle.
The In-Laws Are Paying
Also, in an edit by the OP, she notes that the in-laws are paying for around 75% of the wedding. In this case, it seems more reasonable that they are trying to dictate parts of the ceremony to reflect their beliefs.
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