OP was a bridesmaid for her friend, Grace, whose older family member, Carol, was a wedding planner. On the day before the wedding, Grace and her soon-to-be groom were resentful because the family was trying to make the day about themselves instead of the pair. They asked the bridal party to stay away from the rooms where the family would get ready. Despite this, Carol and Grace’s mom sabotaged Grace’s lovely day. During the photo session, Carol humiliated Grace and OP, telling them to get the frowns off their faces, and the photographer had to stop because of her conduct. OP had a panic attack and disregarded Grace’s family for the rest of the day.
Should I Have Given Her a Chance?
OP is questioning if she was wrong for not giving Carol a chance to apologize. However, given Carol’s behavior, her apology may not have been sincere or sufficient to make up for the hurt she caused.
She Needed Space
It is understandable that OP needed space to manage her emotions and support her friend on her special day. Carol’s behavior was unprofessional and unacceptable, and she should be held accountable for her actions.
The Community Agree
Most readers agree that there should be a balance between two conflicting parties, particularly when they are essentially family. Often situations are sparked by one irritated party from which another responds appropriately; therefore, blame can complicate:
“NTA. She was being sour; you were sour back. Maybe she shouldn’t dish it if she can’t handle it. As for giving room for her to talk, you don’t owe anyone time to apologize. Anyway, if she did want to apologize, she should do so to the couple and not to you… it was their day she was ruining.”
Apology Needed
It is an excellent point about blame and responsibility. The commenter makes a good point that an apology should be received by the couple, as it is their day that got ruined.
It’s a Bridesmaids Job
Bridesmaids are some of the most important attendees at weddings. They are there to help the bride at all costs and keep a smooth running day. Therefore, it is noted that it is only natural that the OP would want to stick up for her friend.
People Sympathize
“NTA. She was ruining Grace’s day. You’re a good friend, and I’m sorry Carol induced a panic attack for you.”
The Online Community Agree
The readers were very much in agreement that she was a good person and a protective friend, as she should be. She was only doing what was right for her friend, who she had a duty to protect.
She Did What She Had to Do
There are some people who deserve to be taken down a peg or two. When someone is being harsh and critical, sometimes they deserve to have someone confront them on their actions.
“She was rude and sounded like pestering. No wonder she got your back up a bit.”
She Deserved It
When OP got angry, people agreed that they believed Grace had done enough to warrant OP’s reaction. If people are going to be harsh, eventually, they will push it too far and irritate someone enough to encourage a response.
Consequences of Her Actions
There are sometimes reasons for people deserve to have consequences. There are going to be some reasonable consequences that Grace will have to face, according to their commenter.
“NTA. You rock as a friend. And someone, please give her ‘business’ a review noting how awful she was even planning for a family member!”
They Make Nasty Suggestions
There are some perhaps nasty suggestions that are being suggested by readers. They are calling for OP to put in a strongly worded but fair review regarding her business practices. After all, she was the wedding planner and should have been aware that she represented her business to everyone at the wedding.
That’s a Bit Harsh
Some suggested that this was too harsh as it was a close family engagement, and there is no need to criticize someone’s business. Ultimately, it should perhaps be the duty of the bride to deal with the planner and the friend since it was her wedding.
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