The story of a sister declining to donate to her sibling’s wedding costs has caused quite a commotion, with many people taking sides in the feverish discussion. While some see it as a simple case of financial responsibility, others assert that family loyalty should take priority. The sisters’ relationship is now weakened, leaving many wondering if they can ever find a way to reconcile their differences.
It’s for a Petty Reason.
The OP’s younger sister, Jamie, recently got engaged and is well into her wedding planning.
“Our parents gifted us $25,000 each as a wedding present when we got engaged to help with wedding expenses and just help us get started with some savings.”
They Kept Their Wedding on the Smaller Side.
The OP got married two years ago and wanted a low-key wedding to save their gifted money and invest in their future.
“Due to this, we saved $20,000 of the money we were gifted and just put it into savings.”
She Complained About the Wedding.
Although the OP and her hubby were happy with their low-cost wedding, Jamie had a different opinion.
“She practically spent every single family event after the wedding gossiping about how my wedding was so ‘trashy and cheap.’.”
She Was Miffed the Wedding Wasn’t More Extravagant.
Jamie couldn’t understand why her sister wouldn’t want a big, glamorous white wedding – especially as money isn’t an issue.
“I think she expected a lot more from me because I work as a software engineer, and my husband is a surgeon, and we could have afforded to have a much nicer wedding.”
She’s Become a Greedy Bridezilla.
Jamie’s not happy with the $25k. She wants more and is asking everyone for money.
“My parents refused to give more than the original $25k, and other family members have chipped in, but maybe $5k max combined.”
She Knows About the Money – And Wants It.
Jamie is aware of the money her sister has saved, plus the good salaries she and her husband are on.
“She has been asking me nonstop to give her the $20k as a wedding gift or help pay for another one of her events like the bridal shower, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, or honeymoon.”
Her Only Sibling.
The OP gave a cousin money to pay for their honeymoon, so Jamie is peeved that her sister won’t pay the dough when she can clearly afford to.
“She’s right that I could easily afford to pay for parts of her wedding, but honestly, I don’t want to give her anything after she treated me so poorly following my wedding.”
She’s Reaped What She’s Sown.
The OP is still upset about her sister’s behavior regarding her wedding and she’s reluctant to help Jamie out.
“I don’t want to (financially) support someone who didn’t support me on my big day, and now she has been going around telling the family that I’m extremely selfish and immature for this.”
She’s Made Plans She May Not Be Able to Pay For.
Jamie assumed her sister would help her out, which may well backfire.
“She has put down deposits on many services/vendors and just expected me to help pay, but now she has no way of paying the vendors and she can’t get her deposits back either.”
Her Family Is Piling on the Pressure.
Everyone seems to be taking Jamie’s side and expecting her sister to help her financially.
“So now my family wants me to help her out so she doesn’t lose the little money she already has. I don’t see how this is my problem.”
She’s Worried She’s Being Seen as the Bad Guy.
So, naturally, she took to an online forum to ask people if she was in the wrong here.
The OP Doesn’t Owe Her a Dime.
Many users took the OP’s side and felt she had every right to withhold her money.
“She got a sum of money for it, and if she can’t stay within that budget, NOBODY else needs to pay her a penny. You don’t owe her even five cents.”
Smart vs. Rude
Users praised the OP for her resourcefulness and agreed her sister’s behavior was way out of line.
“You were smart to have a low-budget wedding and have money for other things after. Smart smart smart. She was rude rude rude.”
The Sister Has a Real Nerve.
Another user reassured the OP that she’s not the AH here.
“Sister’s audacity is so lacking in self-awareness that it’s almost comical. Even if she hadn’t spent the last 2 years publicly trashing OP’s wedding, she still wouldn’t be entitled to any money.”
It’s Easy to See Where the Sister’s Audacity Comes From.
The sister’s audacity seems inherited – “The family wants me to help her out?! How dare they think they have a say in how OP and her husband spend their money?”
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