A woman wanted to get some support online as she struggled with a complicated problem involving her boyfriend, his daughter, and his ex, who is suffering from cancer.
She’s Never Got Along With Ex’s Wife
The woman explained that her boyfriend has a 10-year-old daughter whose mom the OP has never gotten along with.
Ex Has Brain Tumour
Suffers from an aggressive form of brain cancer.
Ex Hates Her – She’s a Home Wrecker
She explains that the ex believes that she was having an affair with her husband before the divorce and believe that she is hated by the ex, having been referred to as a “home-wrecker” and other names.
The Relationship Is Strained
Meanwhile, the relationship between the OP and her boyfriend’s ex is strained.
He Adores His Daughter and Is Still Friends With His Ex
Her boyfriend adores his daughter and is still friendly with his ex, as he has known her since childhood, and they were together for 15 years.
She Minds the Daughter For Hospital Visits
The OP explained how her BF has been taking his ex to her hospital appointments since she was diagnosed, and she has been minding their daughter.
The OP has been thanked for minding the daughter, but things started to go wrong when the OP was asked to take the child back to her mom’s house. When she dropped the child off, her mom began saying that the OP was glad that she was dying and that she would be happy that her daughter would be hers when she died.
He Stayed Quiet – She Kicked Off
Many other nasty things were said, but the OP’s boyfriend stayed quiet. When they got home, the OP lost it with her BF, explaining that she should not be insulted like that and that she no longer wants to look after his daughter.
Be Considerate. She’s Got Weeks to Live
The BF insisted that she was wrong and that his ex only has a few weeks to live, so she should be considerate.
The Forum Muscle In
People responded to the OP by saying that she needed to understand how brain tumors can affect cancer and that “A good compromise would be to take a few days to yourself to decompress, but washing your hands completely of the situation would come back to haunt you.
Boyfriend Will Always Be There for Child
Others thought of the young child, with one person commenting, “She’s ten, she’s just been through a divorce and watched her dad immediately replace her mom, and her mom is dying.” When looking from the boyfriend’s perspective, one person said, “Like it or not, your boyfriend is a father to a traumatized child, and if you stay, you’re going to have to deal with that.”
She Thanks The Online Community
In an edit, the OP thanked people for sharing their thoughts and said she was just angry and didn’t think she would stop minding the BF’s daughter, as she acknowledges that the girl will always be a part of her life.
They Made Up
In a later post, the OP said that she sat down with her BF, who apologized for calling her a name and said he was shocked by the incident, which meant he couldn’t process everything as well as he would have liked.
When the OP insisted she loved her BF and wanted him to sick up for her in the future, he asked her to marry him. They are now engaged and are “relatively happy.”
In the update, the OP also revealed that her BF’s ex died.
The daughter is now living with them and doing ok but is missing her mom terribly and, at one point, started yelling and screaming at the OP. The OP knew this was a difficult time and offered to go and stay with a friend so that she had space but the girl was distraught and begged her to stay, which she did.
One person gave this advice, “This is heartbreaking, but I’m glad you guys are making things work… if you can look into grief counseling for them; she lost her mom, and he lost his childhood friend and partner for 15 years, they gonna need help building coping mechanisms to navigate this pain.”
She’s Doing the Right Thing!
It is clear that the OP is trying to support her fiancé and his daughter, and we hope that they support each other through this difficult time.
HIS HOA DEMANDS THE REMOVAL OF SECURITY CAMERAS: THEIR OVERSIGHT TRIGGERS A LEGAL BACKLASH, ENTRAPPING THEM IN A RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE LOOPHOLE!
A couple bought surveillance cameras to monitor their property, which inadvertently waged a costly war with their HOA.
She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
When it comes to family dynamics, few things can stir up emotions, quite like inheritance disputes. A contentious situation has emerged in an unfolding saga that tests the bonds of blood and challenges the concept of fairness. At the center of this narrative stands a sister who adamantly demands her brother to share his daughter’s inheritance with her stepdaughter, who, to her dismay, was not bequeathed anything. She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
HE ISSUES AN ULTIMATUM: IN-LAWS MUST VACATE OR HIS DAUGHTER’S DOOR REMAINS LOCKED IN A HEART-WRENCHING POWER STRUGGLE
OP’s brother-in-law, Sammy, moved in with his twin daughters, Olivia and Sloane, after losing his home due to a divorce. OP’s daughter, Zoey, is 16 years old and gets along fine with her cousins, but they do not respect her privacy.