There’s much discussion about red flags on first dates – but what about the green ones?
Good Communication
“When you find a common talking point, she genuinely adds to not only the conversation but your view on said topic.
Good conversation gets me going!” – One male Reddit user shared.
Effort
“Looking back, the thing that should’ve been the biggest green flag about the woman I married was that she made just as much effort to see me as I did to see her.
She texted me first, suggested hang-out times, and came up with date ideas just as often as I did. I don’t think I realized it back then but I realize it now.”
They’re Great Company
“You don’t realize hours have passed sitting and chatting wherever, you sit in your car at the end of the night and talk for another hour, and realize even after one date you genuinely miss their company.”
They Don’t Feel the Urge to Look at Their Phone
“When she puts her phone away. Hell of a green flag.”
“Ain’t that the truth, I understand checking messages but when you’re on it for more than 5 or so minutes, at least excuse yourself and make a phone call if it’s an emergency.”
Confidence
“She has a level of confidence.
Nothing crazy but you can tell she has an idea what she wants.”
They Compliment How You Look
“She compliments you and how you look.”
Women are used to giving each other compliments and receiving compliments from men. Women I’ve dated were never very complimentary of me.”
Good Flow of Chatter
“Conversion flows easily and naturally. You’re able to talk about the big things like religion, politics and children without feeling like it’s a potential argument.
You’re both laughing and relaxed the entire time and you leave the date itching for the next one.”
She Doesn’t Expect You to Pay for Everything
“My now wife offered to split our first meal… I declined and paid. She thanked me. Then when we got a drink at the bar after, she said “let me get this round”.
Knew she was a keeper.”
She’s Genuinely Interested in You
“Active conversation. She’s asking questions, seems legitimately interested in what you have to say, not compulsively checking her phone or checking out in general.
These are respectful things gents can do as well to keep things flowing well.”
She’s Kind to the Waiter
“If they’re polite to customer service people, it’s usually a better sign than if they are nice to you.”
“Kindness towards service staff – if she does that, she cares about other people even if she doesn’t have to.”
You Don’t Want the Date to End
“They don’t want it to end. Excuses or suggesting places to go after the main date to keep talking.
Or if that’s not possible (maybe one of us is working the next day) her texting once she gets home or if she’s in a taxi home her messaging as soon as you leave one another.”
She’s Thoughtful
“She was just… really genuine and honest and was just as nervous as I was to meet her. She also had brought me a small gift that she knew I would love.
She was honest about her intentions and expectations in dating, but what really topped it off for me was how quickly we were able to laugh and be silly together.”
She Enjoys Her Food
“Dives face first into a plate of ribs like it owes her money and comes up looking like a Jackson Pollock painting.”
Hell of an image and we’re completely here for it.
Animals Like Them
“Does your dog (or cat) like them? Animals see things we don’t. I went on a date with someone who ended up coming back to mine and we stayed up and talked until 3 or 4 am.
I was sleeping in a hammock at the time and didn’t own a bed, and also wasn’t looking for a hookup, so my date slept on the couch.
When I came out to the living room in the morning, my dog was asleep on her legs. Doggo had never come to bed, just stayed out in the living room with my date.”
Open Body Language
“This shows if they are actually interested in you and genuinely like you.
If their body is pointed towards you and their arms aren’t crossed but also pointing in your direction it shows she is comfortable with being around you and probably likes you.”
Decent Conversation
“Talking about the big things: politics, religion, kids, marriage. When I got out of my last relationship, I screened dates.
I’m old enough to know what I want and I wasn’t going to waste time dating someone who didn’t match up.”
Not a Social Media Addict
“Not using social media is a green flag. At the very least, not being glued to 6 different apps at any given time.”
“I guarantee that if a woman (or man) doesn’t use social media, they will make for a far more interesting conversationalist.”
General Enthusiasm
“For life, for the moment, for everything. These are intelligent, liberal characteristics.”
“Knowing how to be happy is the most attractive characteristic. Our media/markets peddle drama (simple, cheap, and easy) and prey upon the spoiled sad simpletons we’ve become.”
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