A new mom headed to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole to ask if she was the a**hole for pleading with her husband’s boss for his job back after he was sacked. Starting her post by explaining that she had a 5-month-old baby and was struggling to get enough sleep, it was clear to see she was giving context as to why she may be deemed the a**hole.
She went on to tell readers that her husband had come home and dropped the bombshell and that he had lost his job. Immediately she went into shock as she was so frightened for the future.
The job loss was part of reducing staff overall, and he had seen it coming, although he did not tell his wife that it may have been on the cards. He revealed that as he had made some mistakes in recent months, he was chosen to be laid off.
After comforting her husband, the original poster (OP) told him she was going shopping with the baby but went to her husband’s workplace to speak to his manager. She asked her husband’s boss to look the baby in the eye and begged him to question his decision to fire her husband.
He seemed surprised at how bad things were and said he understood, but his decision stood and that her husband could appeal if he wanted to. After returning to tell her husband what she had done, he did not like it and went ‘ballistic,’ telling her she should not have interfered.
When the OP pushed as to what mistakes her husband had made, it was signing off reports that were not completed, manipulating his timesheets, and forging his managers’ signatures. Yes, they are some pretty unacceptable things at work, so he may have been more accountable for losing his job than he first thought.
He was fired for misconduct but could not bring himself to tell his wife the truth, for which the OP is furious. After reading this, it is clear that both parties have claims on the a***hole title, but did readers agree? The answer is yes!
Many people spoke of how shocking it was for his wife to head to his work, which could have hindered the appeal process. One person asked, “Why would you think interfering at your husband’s workplace would be a good idea? It’s unprofessional and embarrassing.”
Another person says, “He’s right about that and has the right to be p***ed at you. That was not cool at all! Your husband is a grown-up, he can handle his own business, and I understand you were stressed, but that’s not your job; you’re not supposed to try to solve everything.”
In support of the OP, one person commented, “He’s right; it was not your place to go to his work like that.
However, he is the much bigger AH for lying to you; what you did pales in comparison, considering what he did are fraud and illegal af. He’s lucky a firing was all he got….”
Another pointed out that while her actions were that of an a***hole, “Your husband is an AH for putting his job in jeopardy when you have a newborn.”
We have to wonder why her husband felt he could not confide in the OP about his problems at work and why he needed to lie about how he lost his job. He is unlikely to get his job back, and there is much work to do on their relationship.