A man took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole recently as he was disgruntled at his wife for moving their family away from their home.
The 39-year-old explained to readers that his wife, 15-year-old son, and 16-year-old daughter moved to a different part of the US due to his wife’s job. He told of his son’s struggles to fit in his new school, explaining that he had just come out to his friends at his old place and felt accepted for being gay, which has not happened since the move.
Loss of A Support System
The original poster’s (OP) son is having a hard time, something he blames his wife for as she insisted on moving during the transition from middle school to high school. His wife defended her actions saying that he would need to get to know new people and a new school anyway and that both kids would be moving to college soon anyway.
She also spoke of how much their daughter was enjoying her new school and friends and reassured him that they would feel much better about the move as time passed.
The place we live in now, while still in the US, is less accepting. Alex has made a few friends, but despite us being here for a year, he still hasn’t gotten comfortable here. Conversely, Marie loves it and has been excelling at this new school thanks to clicking better with her teachers this year.
He Accused His Wife of Being Too Harsh and More Interested in Her Career
Things came to a head when the son was caught smoking, and while the OP wanted a stern and educational conversation, his wife was too strict in grounding him and taking away his phone. When he brought up how unhappy he was at how she was treating her son, she accused him of favoriting him and denying that her actions were isolating him even more.
When the OP suggested moving back home, he said that his wife was putting her “passion project” before her family and that she should put her career on the back burner. She was enraged by this and has not spoken to him since, saying that he was wrong to undermine her career, and despite his insistence that they have enough money, she wants to work rather than needing to work.
Still not speaking, the OP asked Reddit viewers if he was an a**hole, and he quickly found out that many people thought he was.
One poster said, “YTA, the context of your children doesn’t apply here. You essentially said your wife doesn’t do anything of significance, which is hurtful and demotivating” Another called out his sexism as he did appear to favor his son. They said, “He’s completely sexist as well. His daughter’s well-being doesn’t seem to matter. His wife’s career is a “passion project” and he can control (support) them on his inheritance.”
Many people were concerned for the OP’s wife and kids, with one person saying, “This, along with him controlling all the money, is very concerning for his wife, especially when the kids leave. He wants all the control over her.”. This quote got a lot of upvotes on Reddit, with one commenting that “A trust fund baby calling someone’s career a passion project is a major a**hole move.”
It seems that the OP has a lot of talking and listening to do, and who knows if they will ever come to a compromise.
HIS MOTHER AND AUNT ARE BANNED FROM HIS WEDDING AFTER WHAT THEY DID TO HIS FIANCÉ
Source: Reddit