OP’s son, Jordan, has a strained relationship with his stepmother, Natalie, since she came into his life when he was 16. Jordan never viewed Natalie as his mother and declined to let her get close to him. He even lived with his aunt after Natalie and OP got married. However, they started reconciling and visiting each other more often over time. Recently, Jordan got married and requested Natalie and OP to attend.
Jordan Denied Natalie but Danced With His Aunt
At the wedding, OP found out that Jordan denied Natalie a mother-son dance and instead chose to dance with his aunt.
Natalie Was Hurt
Natalie was hurt by this and told OP, who couldn’t help feeling irritated and upset.
OP Left the Wedding and Explained Later
OP decided to leave the wedding with Natalie and later explained to Jordan that it was because of his hurtful actions towards Natalie.
Jordon Accused OP of Ruining His Day
However, Jordan got mad and accused OP of ruining his day and causing a scene.
The Family Take Sides
OP believes that Jordan hurt Natalie’s feelings for no reason other than to be malicious and that he should have followed the tradition of having a mother-son dance. However, Jordan and the rest of the family sided against OP and said that they shouldn’t have left the wedding no matter what.
Readers Have Taken a Stand Against OP
There are many readers that have taken a stand against the OP’s position.
“YTA. Your wife has never been his mother and he has every right not to have a mother/son dance with her. I strongly suspect this isn’t the first time you’ve chosen your wife over your son, and is probably why he moved in with his aunt.”
Apologise for Throwing a Tantrum at His Wedding
“If you want any kind of relationship with your son going forward, I very much recommend both you and your wife apologize for throwing a tantrum at his wedding.”
It’s a Complicated and Emotionally Charged Situation
Clearly, this is a complicated and emotionally charged situation, but that does not mean that the truth should not be told. This commenter is highlighting to OP that this woman is not his mother; she is his wife.
OP Does Not Understand That He Has Hurt His Son
It appears as if OP does not understand that he has hurt his son in his actions and marrying another woman. This is exemplified by his actions to move out when he originally married.
The OP Prioritizes His New Wife Over Son
Beyond this, after his son has made amends with his partner, he is still confused as to why he still does not think of her as his mother. Then the OP prioritized his new wife over his son for the second time in the story.
OP Is Deluded
Even OP’s family has chosen to support Jason in his decision over OP. This speaks volumes as it suggests that OP is deluded and is the only person that cannot understand the situation.
He Chooses to Honor His Aunt
“He chooses to honor his aunt – who has guided him through some rough teen years – by dancing with her. And you’re upset about this? HAVE YOU LOST YOUR EVER-LOVING MIND????
The family is correct.”
The Community Weighs In
Rightfully, this reader notes that Jason chooses to respect his aunt as a motherly figure. Not only is she a blood relative but also someone that helped raise him from the age of 16. This is clearly a more motherly figure compared to OP’s wife.
There’s Probably a Bigger Picture
This comment also notes that the rest of the family is in agreement with Jason. Even though family dynamics are complicated, there are likely many more pieces to the puzzle. However, from what is described, it is clear that OP is coming across as ungrateful and misguided.
OP Is Being Childish
OP is not coming off well in the thread. He is very much acting like the child in this situation.
“So you made your son’s wedding all about your need for your wife to get a mother-son dance with him. Then you left when you didn’t get your way. And you don’t see YTA.”
An Accurate but Harsh Statement
This statement is harsh but accurate. OP has made the whole situation about him and his wife rather than his son. It appears to be a running theme.
He Needs to Take a Step Back and Think
OP has made all of the decisions his son made about him and how it affects him. However, he needs to step back and have a look at why Jason made those choices and try to repair their relationship in the long run.
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