OP and his girlfriend Anne have been dating for the past five years, and they’ve been living together for a year after Anne got employment in OP’s city. They installed security cameras around their home due to the high rate of break-ins in their area. Anne is aware of the cameras and their motion activation feature.
Anne Complained About How Many Chores He Does
Anne started complaining about OP not contributing equally to chores, even though they have been alternating and dividing the chores equally. OP initially brushed off her remarks, but they escalated over the last few months. Anne exploded at OP last week, accusing him of not doing his fair share around the house and treating her like a maid.
He Watched 1.5 Years of Footage to Prove It Was Equal
Doubting his own recollection, OP decided to go through the entire 1.5-year archive of security camera footage and tallied up how many times each of them did dishes and grabbed cleaning supplies. To his vindication, the tally showed that they had indeed split chores equally, with insignificant differences over the year and a half.
She Accused Him of Violating Privacy
When OP confronted Anne, she shrugged off her behavior as “remembering things differently” but accused OP of violating her privacy by going through the security camera footage.
They Broke Up
Anne has broken up with OP and is trying to move out, but the current circumstances are making it difficult.
Their Friends Are Calling Him Abusive, Controlling, and Invasive
OP is heartbroken and confused as many of their mutual friends are siding with Anne and calling him “creepy, abusive, controlling, invasive, etc.” OP is at a loss and beginning to doubt himself.
Online Users Comment
Many are on OP’s side of this situation:
“NTA, she has accused you of not pulling your weight, and you pulled hard proof that you were. She knew about the cameras, so it’s not an invasion of privacy, I would argue, and honestly, it sounds like you’ll need some time to get over her, but it’s for the best.”
It Wasn’t an Invasion of Privacy
This commenter makes an excellent point about the camera evidence. They were not secret, and they were installed under a mutual decision made by the couple. Therefore, it is not an invasion of privacy but a simple use of the footage she knew they had available.
He Only Looked at the Footage to Prove His Innocence
OP only pulled this information because he was continually confronted by his partner over his lack of chore completion. He acted as a last resort to highlight to his girlfriend that she was wrong.
She Has a Right to Feel Violated
However, 1.5 years of footage is a very long time and must have to take a long period of time to review. In this case, OP’s girlfriend does have the right to feel a little violated, which is such an in-depth look at her movements in the house over that year or so.
She May Be Angry About Something Else
A cohort of commenters has noted that OP’s girlfriend’s anger towards him may have come from a different source:
“Yeah, sadly, I would say her accusations were her just projecting her dissatisfaction with the relationship onto OP. It seems much easier to break up with someone if you blame them for causing it, and lots of people do that unconsciously.”
She May Resent the Relationship
A more concerning comment was made by a deep-thinking online user. They have deduced that the anger has come from an overall resentment of their relationship rather than an irritation associated with chores.
It’s a Story of an Unhappy Couple
This would be a more concerning situation as it is now a story of an unhappy couple rather than a tale of proving someone wrong.
Is She Simply Looking for a Way Out?
Sadly, a lot of the thread began to discuss the fact that this is simply OP’s girlfriend looking for a way out.
“This was my thought, as well. If not for the recordings, she would have broken up with him for ‘not doing his fair share of chores.'”
Some People Do Not Know How to End a Relationship
Some people just don’t know how to end a relationship unless it’s someone’s “fault.”
As this thread participant describes, she is simply looking for a reason to cut ties. She has already decided that it is time for them to split up but would prefer to have a reason to blame it on OP.
HIS HOA DEMANDS THE REMOVAL OF SECURITY CAMERAS: THEIR OVERSIGHT TRIGGERS A LEGAL BACKLASH, ENTRAPPING THEM IN A RIDICULOUSLY EXPENSIVE LOOPHOLE!
A couple bought surveillance cameras to monitor their property, which inadvertently waged a costly war with their HOA.
She Demands Her Brother Share His Daughter’s Inheritance With Her Stepdaughter – Who Wasn’t Bequeathed Anything!
When it comes to family dynamics, few things can stir up emotions, quite like inheritance disputes. A contentious situation has emerged in an unfolding saga that tests the bonds of blood and challenges the concept of fairness. At the center of this narrative stands a sister who adamantly demands her brother to share his daughter’s inheritance with her stepdaughter, who, to her dismay, was not bequeathed anything.
HE ISSUES AN ULTIMATUM: IN-LAWS MUST VACATE OR HIS DAUGHTER’S DOOR REMAINS LOCKED IN A HEART-WRENCHING POWER STRUGGLE
OP’s brother-in-law, Sammy, moved in with his twin daughters, Olivia and Sloane, after losing his home due to a divorce. OP’s daughter, Zoey, is 16 years old and gets along fine with her cousins, but they do not respect her privacy.