OP, a 25-year-old, recently moved away from her family to change her diet. She was raised as a vegan but secretly changed her mind around 24 for health reasons. She moved out a few months ago to change her diet because her family forbids animal foods from being eaten in their house. OP thinks her family would have disagreed with her eating meat/dairy, period, whether she ate it at home; that’s how strongly they feel about it.
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She kept her new diet a secret from her family but always intended to tell them. She even made a “Why I’m No Longer Vegan” document detailing why she switched to give them when she’d say to them to explain her new viewpoint.
One day, while at a store, she ran into her family, who were visiting a nearby park. She talked to them briefly but declined to return to the store with them because she didn’t want them to see what she was returning. However, the cashier recognized her and told her family about the return, including what she was returning.
When she returned home, her dad called her and accused her of being a liar, sneaker, and murderer for not telling them about her new diet. However, OP thinks that it was always her intention to say to them and not find out accidentally.
It Is Her Decision
Many in the thread are commenting about the OP being of age to make her own decision about her own body:
“NTA, you’re 25, not 5, they shouldn’t get to control what you eat, and it sounds like you’ve done your research. Their finding out this way is unfortunate, but finding time to talk about it with them would still be wise. Also, articulating why you were putting together this document and that they proved your point by reacting like that wouldn’t hurt either.”
This reasonable REdditor offers OP a solution to resolving things with her family and explains that the situation that led them to find out was not what OP had planned. This would hopefully ensure that her family would be more understanding of the shocking revelation.
Additionally, it is a common theme that Redditors believe that OP is more than old enough to be making her own decisions. Therefore, she must be honest with her family and explain herself as an adult.
OP’s Parents Are Unreasonable
Redditors have also taken to the comment section to explain that OP’s family has powerful beliefs in veganism:
“NTA, your parents are over the top with their beliefs. I have many vegan friends and fam that don’t care what you do as long as you don’t give them anything. But, the fact you felt you had to make a document says it all too.”
This commenter suggests that it is unreasonable for the OP to be so sneaky around her parent over their diet. Plenty of reasonable vegans are not out to get anyone who does not follow their life choice.
Also, the fact that the OP is bothering to have a document filled with information to use when revealing her non-vegan ways to her family is over the top. If OP feels this is necessary, maybe her parents are more unhinged in their beliefs than they should be.
She Knew This Would Be a Trouble
The information given by the OP has made the Redditors believe that her parent was influential in their beliefs, and they have come to show that:
“You’re a grown-up and allowed to make your own decisions. I can see why you didn’t want to tell them, as they called you a murderer. NTA.”
For most in the thread, the idea of calling someone a murderer for consuming animal products is too far, never mind one’s daughter. OP’s parents were extreme, and OP knew it. She is being called vile names for a typical dietary choice. Her parents are very much the ones that are coming off poorly in this story, not OP.
HIS MORAL STAND AGAINST DISCRIMINATION LEFT HIS FUTURE MOTHER-IN-LAW REFUSING TO ATTEND HIS WEDDING.
Source: Reddit
