This week, a woman looked for comfort on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole after discovering her husband had plastic surgery without telling her. Her husband confessed to having sculpting work after discussing with his wife about her wanting treatment for herself sometimes.
The original poster (OP) said that her husband looked uncomfortable after the confession as it seemed he was not planning to tell her and regretted letting it slip. The OP stressed that she had no qualms about plastic surgery but felt annoyed that her husband kept his work hidden.
In addition to the fact that he felt he could not tell his wife about his surgery, there was an issue with finances as he is a full-time student and does not contribute to household bills. So $4,000 spent on cosmetic surgery could have been better, according to the OP, not sneaking out to an appointment while she was oblivious.
Conflicted on whether or not she was wrong to be upset, she turned to AITA to get some insight.
Floods of people quickly commented to give her lots to think about, with one person saying, “So he is hiding money from you if he had money to pay for this procedure. You are being used. One lie will lead to a bigger lie. The minute he graduates and has a job, he will be out.”
Another Reddit user echoed this sentiment, who commented, “I would say that he has violated your trust. He has been secretive about the procedure and the money. He didn’t discuss either with you in any way and instead bought himself an extravagant gift. He has much to apologize for.”
On the other hand, some people were confused over the OP’s lack of knowledge of the survey, questioning how much attention she had to her husband. They said, “His recovery was so smooth she didn’t notice? No issues at all? I find that very hard to believe. I bet there hasn’t been one patient who had a perfect pain and issue-free recovery.”
Another said, “If I were to get any kind of cosmetic surgery done, I’d hope that my partner would be able to tell the difference.” Other readers were suspicious of his actions and were worried about how he paid for the surgery.
One person speculated that he may not have paid upfront for the surgery and urged her to look into her finances, saying, “Do a credit check on yourself, make sure there isn’t anything in your name either.”
Others suspect he may use his wife, predicting that “ The minute he graduates and has a job, he will be out.” Many readers urged the OP not to be quick to let this matter go as “This isn’t just one lie either, it’s a whole series of lies.”
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