Being in a relationship is not all smooth sailing, no matter how much effort you put into them. When it comes to ensuring a long-term relationship, there are certain do’s and don’t’s to remember. One person scouring for love turned to an online forum to find out what people considered relationship deal breakers when it came to guaranteeing long-lasting love. We examine the most popular responses so you know what to look for if you are playing a dating game.
Reciprocation
The first person to answer the original poster’s (OP) question discussed the need for reciprocation of their feelings and actions. This sentiment was echoed by many others, including one person who said, “It’s soul-crushing when you put what feels like 110% into everything you do for them and receive next to nothing back.”
Cheating
It seems evident that cheating would be a huge deal breaker in any relationship, so it was one of the top answers on the online thread. While some people can be more forgiving when a partner cheats, it seems the majority of people see it as the end of a relationship.
Violence
Violence and abuse within a relationship are strong ‘No’ when holding down a steady and loving relationship.
Lack of Communication
Not striking up good communication channels can mean that a relationship can quickly break down. Holding your concerns in and not speaking up when you are unhappy can lead to grudges that become uncontrollable.
Being Talked Down To
“Someone who pushes back on every opinion you voice and/or talks down to you” is not someone with whom you can sustain a long-term relationship, according to one man.
Lies
Little white lies may be acceptable now and again, but getting into the habit of lying to your partner does not make for a strong relationship.
Manipulation
Being manipulated into doing things you don’t want to do or playing on your partner’s kindness to get what you want is something that one man is not happy about when it comes to dating.
Rudeness
There are certain things we can tolerate about our other halves, but when we witness repeated rudeness is not one of them. Many commented that they often discovered how rude their date was with serving staff or homeless people.
No Ambition
It is always good to have different interests in a relationship so you can see things fresh and find things to talk about with one other. When one partner has little motivation to do things, either personally or professionally, it can be a real downer for the other person.
Food Shaming
One woman noted, “Do not make rude comments about meals. There’s a way to talk about eating habits that shows concern and compassion, but it is peculiar.”
Starting Conversations With “If you really love me.”
The answer to that would be, “If you really love me, then you would not be saying that!”
Disrespecting Belongings
One person took a hard line when they said, “If you break, misuse, damage, or lose my belongings because of carelessness, we will not work.”
Yelling
If yelling is the only way that you can communicate, then you may have trouble finding a partner for life, as many people say that raising your voice instead of talking things through in a calm manner is a huge turn-off.
Talking About Themselves Too Much
If your date talks about themselves constantly and they don’t ask much about you, this could be a sign of things to come.
Addiction
If one partner has an addiction and is unwilling to seek help, a relationship can break down before it even starts. You can offer to support your partner, but if they are not committing to getting help, then it may be time to call it a day.
Smoking
For many people, dating someone who smokes is a deal breaker, even if they are the nicest of people.
Children
Even people who love children can struggle to be in a relationship with someone with kids. Similarly, some people who may not be able to have children of their own and are at a later stage in life may want to enter a relationship with someone who does have kids.
Poor Hygiene
You would think that people in the dating game would understand the need for good personal hygiene, but it appears not.
Not Affectionate
Some people like to touch and affection more than others, so they are absolutely not into public displays of affection. If the affection levels are not a good match for each other, then it is a surefire way to recognize incompatibility.
Lack of Empathy
A partner that is unkind to children and dogs or does not show empathy generally rings alarm bells for many people looking for the perfect partner.
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