OP’s son and his partner arranged their wedding day to be as economical as possible. They had a simple courthouse wedding with a backyard BBQ reception/after-party. However, in the lead-up to the wedding OP had some difficulties with her phone calendar and forgot about the event a few times before being corrected by her son and daughter.
Unlike her involvement with her daughter’s wedding, OP had no involvement in planning her son’s wedding, as they wanted everything to be understated and simple. There was little additional help required for such a small event.
After the wedding day there was clearly some tension between OP and her children. OP’s daughter told her that she didn’t like the way she referred to the event as a “BBQ,” and this caused OP some confusion. OP’s daughter feels like OP was being disrespectful about the event and by extension her son.
Unfortunately, OP believes these accusations stem from unresolved issues with her children. OP thinks that her children are still resentful for her divorcing their father and are projecting their anger through these unfounded accusations.
However, OP is not aware of any social faux pas she made and believes that her family might be overly sensitive. OP’s son usually doesn’t tell her when he’s upset and tends to ignore her half of the time. Nevertheless, she is willing to apologize if she unintentionally offended him.
Does She Really Needs a Calander
Several commenters in the thread have suggested that OP’s need to use a calendar app to remember her own son’s wedding day is ridiculous.
“I live and die by my phone calendar. People need tools sometimes. It’s not a value statement, just a fact.
However, it takes about 30 seconds to input a date on the phone calendar since the computer one wasn’t syncing correctly. If OP needs her tool that much, she needs to be responsible for maintaining it. She’s an AH for not even trying to hold that date open.”
It is clear that even those who can understand her dependency on the calendar think that OP is to blame for the oversight. Effectively, using a digital calendar makes it incredibly simple to input dates. It appears as if this is a bogus excuse, suggesting that OP may have had other motives to dismiss the event.
Some Redditors Were Very Angry
There is almost unanimous agreement that OP was in the wrong, but for several different reasons. Many have suggested that the OP simply does not give enough attention and care to the fact that it is her son’s wedding day:
“OP, your post is patronizing and dripping with condescension. “Their little BBQ get-together” you forgot about is, in fact their wedding reception. “So I had no involvement with planning” are you saying so it’s not worthy of my attention? And BTW, I suspect your children are correct in blaming you for the divorce because you are in fact insufferable.”
This a particularly harsh response, although a lot of the thread was in agreement with the sentiment. They highlight that there was no significance placed on the day, considering OP referred to it as a ‘little BBQ.’ It is demeaning and indicative of their attitude to the special day for her son.
Moreover, the OP is taking some issues with not having her input on the day’s celebration. Even though it is a very small and scarce planned event, she appears indignant by her lack of involvement.
Although it may be a little unnecessary, the commenter suggests that OP’s daughter’s comments are most likely correct in accusing OP of being responsible for her divorce. This is perhaps too far and a little too far, but it illustrates the fury felt by the commenters on this post.
HIS MOTHER AND AUNT ARE BANNED FROM HIS WEDDING AFTER WHAT THEY DID TO HIS FIANCÉ
Source: Reddit