It was supposed to be the happiest day of her life, but one bride’s wedding was turned into a nightmare by a vengeful vegan who had a score to settle. As the wedding speeches began, no one could have predicted the shocking turn of events that would leave the bride humiliated and in tears.
In a recent Reddit post on the Am I The A**hole forums, or AITA, a woman asked for the community’s opinion of whether or not she was in the wrong for joking about the lack of vegan options at a wedding during her bridesmaid’s speech.
The original poster, or OP, explained that back in November, she attended a friend of a friend’s wedding as a bridesmaid. OP is a vegan and asked the bride if her dietary needs could be accommodated, and she was told yes. But then, closer to the date, there came a complication: a few guests had to drop out, lowering the party number.
Now they didn’t reach the total number of people the venue required to serve more than two entree choices. With the choices of beef and fish already locked in by the other guests, and there being only one vegan—OP—the bride gave OP a $50 UberEats gift card to order what she wanted. Sounds like an okay deal to us, if a little strange.
When the wedding day came, OP ordered the food, but it didn’t arrive on time (shocker). OP could eat more of the appetizer without a main meal but was still very hungry.
Stomach growling and grumpy, when it was time for OP to make her bridesmaid speech after the ceremony, she started with a little joke about the venue not wanting vegans and how hungry she was before going on with the rest of the speech, which was of course about the married couple.
Just a joke, but apparently, the bride didn’t see any humor in the jab. After the speech took OP aside and accused her of ‘ruining her wedding’! Now it’s been months since the November wedding, but she still won’t talk to OP at all.
The AITA forum has had an astonishingly strong response to this story. The community is united in their singular response: OP is the a**hole, and so are all vegans.
The most upvoted comment: “YTA. It wasn’t your wedding, and the bride went WAY out of her way to accommodate you. This is the kind of c**p that makes people strongly dislike vegans. Stop being such a princess.”
Harsh! This seems a bizarre level of abuse to us. Making a small joke about your hunger hardly seems like entitled behavior.
Other comments approved about bringing food in your purse, saying OP should have brought a packed lunch. “At my wedding, I had a guest list and catering locked in weeks in advance,” says an anecdotal comment. “There was a drop out last minute, so my husband wanted to bring his work friend and his girlfriend, who’s vegan.
I explained to her and apologized that there wouldn’t be an extra vegan meal due to short notice, and you know what she did? Said it’s fine and brought herself a small prepped meal in her purse and didn’t complain once.” Well, that’s fine for them, but as OP was a bridesmaid included from the beginning of the wedding planning, the situations are a bit different.
There are also a couple of comments from other vegans wanting to distance themselves from this conceived ‘bad’ behavior. “I am also a vegan and hate the rep entitled vegans give us. This always happens to me, but I choose to be vegan, so I don’t complain.”
“Yeah, I’m veggie, so not quite the same, but I’m the same to the point my boyfriend didn’t realize I was veggie for a few months, and friends hadn’t realized for years,” boasts one user. Another clapped back with, ‘Not sure this is something to be proud of. Your partner not knowing your basic needs doesn’t sound like a healthy way to have a relationship.’
You may have guessed already, but most Redditord disagreed with the AITA comment section. Regardless of whether OP was entitled, reacting to a possibly poor-taste joke by accusing the speaker of ‘ruining your wedding,’ they felt was immensely over the top.
But it seems everyone in the comments is too busy leaping at the chance to have a go at vegans to think correctly—even the vegans themselves, desperate to be considered the ‘good ones.’ Maybe OP made a bad joke, but that hardly merits such an aggressive response as found here.
And honestly, if she was part of the bridal party from the beginning of the wedding planning, the catering should accommodate her. Plus, it seems unlikely that in a wedding party of 48 people, only one person would be unable to eat meat—unless, of course, those people all resigned to stuffing their purses with snacks when they saw their only two options were meat and more meat.
We may not be vegans, but we wouldn’t say no to an excellent meat-free dish at a wedding. What do you think?