A woman took to Reddit recently to ask if she was being unreasonable for not removing her medical equipment at her sister’s wedding. The woman, who will be a part of the wedding party as a bridesmaid, is a Type 1 diabetic and thus wears a Dexcom monitor to monitor her blood sugar and an Omnipod insulin pump.
As both devices are worn on the arm, they would be visible in her dress, although they are small and discreet. The machines are a relief for many people with diabetes as they do not have to prick their fingers and test their blood sugars manually or inject themselves with insulin. So it is safe to say that it makes life easier for diabetics, but it appears to have been an issue for the bride.
When trying on their wedding dresses, the original poster’s (OP) sister commented that she did not want the medical devices worn during the wedding as they look “ugly” in photos. When the OP told her sister she did not want to remove them, her sister complained to their mother, despite the OP’s insistence that she would keep them out of shot as much as possible.
Good wedding photographs are more important than the bride’s sister’s health. Thinking that their mom and some friends would support her, the OP was disappointed that they took the bride’s side. There was talk of moving the devices to the OP’s stomach. Still, she says this is uncomfortable, especially as each new sensor remains in place for ten days.
Getting no support from her family and friends, the woman headed to Reddit to see if she was in the wrong. Thankfully, there was overriding support for the OP, who could not believe the actions of her sister and mother. One person said, “Not just the sister, but her mother! Her mother doesn’t care about her own daughter’s health. Can see who the golden child is. I’d decline the invitation and not go (sic) with them. They are evil.” Another person said, “Asking you to compromise your health is selfish of them, not to mention unreasonable.”
Many comments said she could wear a shawl or photoshop the devices out of the wedding pictures. Still, one commentator said, “It’s a major part of her life, and taking it out wouldn’t be all that different from erasing a mole from an ‘ugly’ person, just changing them to fit their aesthetics.”
In an update thanking everyone for their support on her post, the OP revealed that his brother had got wind of what was happening and had a go at his mom for not supporting the health needs of his sister. Their grandfather also got on board and told his daughter (the OP’s mom) exactly how disappointed he was in her.
As a compromise, the OP has said she would try and wear a flower corsage or a shawl, as suggested by some responders on the post. However, she is well with her right to refuse to hide the devices. After all, we would not expect somebody to conceal their disability aid.
More awareness of health aids is essential, as one person commented when they said, “Models have started wearing their medical diabetes aids on the RUNWAY to raise awareness for medical issues like diabetes. If vanity is more important than medical needs, there is a massive issue with the sister.”