A bride-to-be recently spoke of dismay at her sister’s lack of enthusiasm for her upcoming wedding. In an Am I The A**hole post, the 25-year-old told readers that while she was busy making many plans for her impending big bash, her sister was not on the same page.
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The Backstory
The original poster (OP) spoke of her sister, who is to be the maid of honor, who has not paid for anything nor offered to finance items such as hair and make-up. When the OP sent her daughter images of bridesmaid dresses, she was unhappy with her sister’s response that they were too expensive.
However, the OP did not think she was unreasonable with the dress as it was “only $110” and felt all her requests should be accommodated. Straightaway, it is evident that money seems to be an issue for the sister, something which is explained further when the OP begins to talk about the joint bachelorette/bachelor party that was to be held at a festival. With tickets at $350 plus hotel costs, food, drinks, and outfits, the OP expected each person to pay around 1k, which she felt was acceptable.
On the other hand, the sister had different ideas and said she would try to find the money. Still, she could not promise that she would be attending the bachelorette. Hurt, the OP became angry that her sister was spending hundreds of dollars on tattoos and shopping at the mall but would not spend money on her sister’s wedding.
She Turns to Reddit for Advice
Turning to AITA, she asked if she was being unreasonable, and there were a lot of responses to this sibling conflict. One reader immediately chimed in to show their dismay at how demanding the OP seemed, saying, “Wedding culture has gotten completely out of hand.”
Remember OP: no one is nearly as excited about your wedding as you”. This sentiment was shared by so many people who felt the OP was being very cheeky, commenting, “People’s perceptions of what’s “normal” and appropriate have gotten so skewed. I’ve been a MOH 3 times, and every time the only things I was expected to pay for were my wedding dress and shoes.”
While the whole attitude of the OP seemed to wind people up, it was the bachelorette party that was a particular worry, with one user saying, “For real, when she wrote it would be around $1,000, I said “oh my god!” out loud and startled the cat. It’s insane to expect someone to pay that for a bachelorette party.”
With the average bachelorette party being $537, we know there is a lot of demand for people who want to attend their friend’s celebrations. One Reddit user was angry with what they heard and pointed out, “That’s a month’s wages to me. You want = you pay. YTA. Please get over yourself before you alienate everyone associated with you.”
The Last Piece of Advice
This last piece of advice is something that the OP needs to take on board. Understandably, she is getting carried away with wedding plans. Still, she feels she is taking things too far when speaking of how much her sister earns and what she should do with her money.
This advice seems the most appropriate, with one person confirming that “YTA. It’s your wedding. The only ones technically financially obligated are you and whoever you are marrying. Anyone else who helps is doing it out of kindness.”
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Source: Reddit
